Career and Reparenting: Why We Need to do Inner Child Work to Get to the Next Level
Hey friends,
I feel like I’m constantly saying "what a wild time to be alive" these days, and indeed it is. On a spiritual level, because of my personal belief in reincarnation, I believe our souls chose this moment in time because we knew we could be of the highest service with our gifts and our agency. It is one of the ideas that ground me when the going gets tough.
In my experience over the last few months while hearing countless stories from my beloved clients, it's clear most of us are getting knocked off-center. Our stability, trust, and safety feel constantly called into question.
I've recognized more deeply over the last few months that we cannot ascend to a new level until we have reinforced our foundation. Maybe for some of us, we even need to build a whole new one. It's like trying to add a new floor to your home without looking at the underlying support structures. We cannot claim our next level in business or life if we haven't first reinforced our infrastructure. And the infrastructure I'm referring to in this context is our inner child—specifically reevaluating and supporting that inner child through reparenting.
Reparenting is giving yourself what you didn't receive as a child. And many of us are in need of it because no matter how wonderful your parents were or are, it's impossible to get everything we need it when it comes to our work and lives from them. And that lack or dysfunction can show up in our adult relationships and patterns, seeking externally what we need to find internally.
This can show up in work like:
Feeling whatever you achieved, it wasn't enough
Your self-worth is only as good as the next accolade or form of praise at work
You have a hard time setting boundaries when it comes to your work
You're putting self-care last on the list in service of getting things done for others
Stepping into your leadership and authority feels really unnatural and scary
If you nodded yes to any of these, you might benefit from a little reparenting work.
Something that’s helped me on my journey of reparenting has been meditation so I’m sharing this one along with a worksheet to support further inquiry for you here. And if you want to learn more on the topic, I highly recommend you check out the book It Didn't Start with You by Mark Wolynn.
To reparenting and real shifts!
Amina xx